Hey Leigha, I’ve done so much reading on this subject (mostly because it puts me into a better “goddess” frame of mind when I’m reading this stuff) but your advise here was by far the best I’ve read!!
How do you handle this long distance?
“I have been seeing a guy for the past 3 months, we live an hour apart which doesn’t seem to bother either of us. He has a young child and came out of a relationship a year ago (just some background), a few weeks ago he had a pull back, after a few days space I approached him about it and he apologized letting me know it was a work thing and after that he was totally back! Better than before! But because of this setback I started second guessing, doing things I shouldn’t do… constantly wanting reassurance that he was in this (he said he is).
Anyways after some huge stresses happening at work a week ago he has shut down again. He hasn’t gone awol or anything, he still texts me good morning gorgeous daily and “checks in” but the texts are… colder? Just less meaningful than they used to be. It’s a subtle change but I can feel it! It’s less loving. I’ve been giving him space the last few days, texting only when he texts me, trying to be fun and light and upbeat (which of course is the opposite of what I’ve felt crying into ice cream and basically grieving the relationship lol) but today I can actually feel my inner goddess beginning to shine again… I’ve let go. Now he’s still texting but it’s still short… what should I be doing? Am I doing the right thing so far… I’m scared if I give him too much space he will lose interest so how do I keep that interest and still give him the space he really does deserve? Mel”