Here’s a question from an amazing woman who’s wondering what’s going on with the man she’s been dating.

Hi Leigha,

I’ve been dating this guy for almost 3 months.  For the past 2 months we’ve gone out once/week.

He texts or calls almost every day.  He seems to be totally into me when we talk or spend time together.  However, about 3 weeks ago we were talking and he made an off-hand comment about “doing things differently” this time.  I asked what he meant and he said that he takes things slow now – he no longer agrees to exclusivity after one month of dating.

I thought this was an odd comment because I have not talked about exclusivity and we were already at 2 months dating by then.  Nor was I assuming any sort of expectations.  Still busy with my own life.

However, in my previous relationships, we seem to usually know by 2 months–yes, we’re interested in getting to know one another better.  So the dating organically grows to more than a once/week date.

That does not seem to be happening here.  It’s a once a week date with communication in between.  I don’t really like to have the “what’s going on?” conversation.  I haven’t been dating anyone else– Not out of perceived exclusivity—just been busy.

I don’t want to sit here and speculate–is he seeing someone else, because it makes me feel paranoid.  I am confused and have no idea what’s going on.  What to do? Thanks!

Please let me know if this was helpful to you in the comments below.

Love, Leigha