Here’s a question from an amazing woman who’s wondering what’s going on with the man she’s been dating.
I’ve been dating this guy for almost 3 months. For the past 2 months we’ve gone out once/week.
He texts or calls almost every day. He seems to be totally into me when we talk or spend time together. However, about 3 weeks ago we were talking and he made an off-hand comment about “doing things differently” this time. I asked what he meant and he said that he takes things slow now – he no longer agrees to exclusivity after one month of dating.
I thought this was an odd comment because I have not talked about exclusivity and we were already at 2 months dating by then. Nor was I assuming any sort of expectations. Still busy with my own life.
However, in my previous relationships, we seem to usually know by 2 months–yes, we’re interested in getting to know one another better. So the dating organically grows to more than a once/week date.
That does not seem to be happening here. It’s a once a week date with communication in between. I don’t really like to have the “what’s going on?” conversation. I haven’t been dating anyone else– Not out of perceived exclusivity—just been busy.
I don’t want to sit here and speculate–is he seeing someone else, because it makes me feel paranoid. I am confused and have no idea what’s going on. What to do? Thanks!
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