How To Stop Settling And Get The Love And Relationship You REALLY Want

Leigha Lake

I know what it feels like to almost give up on love.

There was a time in my life where I thought the type of man I wanted to be with, didn’t even exist!

I found myself settling for less than what I wanted, talking myself into relationships that were just “ok.”

I had dated ALOT, so I really believed the men who asked me out were as good as it was going to get.

Luckily, mid December of 2011, I came to place in my life where I felt better being single than trying to make something work with someone I wasn’t completely in love with. Phew!!!

It wasn’t very long after that my husband showed up (February 4th, 2012 – less than 2 months later).

How To Have The Love You Want – Whether You’re Single, Married Or Somewhere In Between

Step 1. Stop trying to do something or make something happen.

When we think we need to “do” something in order to have what we want – and then what happens is we accidentally end up creating MORE resistance and keeping what we want just out of reach. I see this happening all the time.

Step 2. Everything you want is waiting for you to receive it.

The only work you ever have to “do” is go within and feel the feelings of love, safety, security, and peace that are already there.  They’re ALWAYS there. They’re just underneath the feelings you don’t want to feel.  You really can access them at any time or place.

You can’t receive what you really desire if you’re stuck in the cycle of feeling lack, worry and disappointment.  You’ll just keep attracting and receiving more lack, worry and disappointment.

This is beyond changing limiting beliefs, repeating mantras and using your energy to visualize exactly what you want and then working hard to keep that vision with you.

This means taking your focus off of what you don’t like in your outer world.

The lack of high quality masculine men, the man in your life who isn’t committing to you, the lack of money in your bank account, the weight you can’t seem to lose…you get the idea.

When you really understand that the only work you ever need to do is manage your own energy, (no pushing, prodding or resisting) everything will literally fall into place.

If you don’t learn how to manage your energy – you’ll find yourself working really, really hard for everything you want only to find it somewhat elusive to you.  You’ll wonder why it can be so easy for some people and not for you. (You don’t even have to change your beliefs!!)

You don’t need to take my word for it though, try it out for yourself.  If it doesn’t “work” for you, you can always go back to doing things the way you’re used to doing them.

Be Open To Receive What You Want By Doing This…

If you’re anything like me – as soon as you wake up in the morning, it’s natural and automatic to start thinking (worrying) about what you have to get done that day and you don’t necessarily feel excited about it.

I recently found myself stressed out first thing in the morning even though I have created my dream life!

I always wanted to be able to wake up in the morning and have time to drink my coffee and set my own schedule.  This is actually my reality!

I also have an amazing husband and two little girls and we recently bought our first home together.  (We spent the first year and half of our marriage living in Hawaii.)

I thought it was crazy that I had forgotten I had exactly what I wanted!

I’ve started becoming even more aware of my own energy and what I’m opening myself up to receive.

Opportunities to do things I’ve always wanted to do have started coming TO me! (Yes, this means I literally did NOTHING – no action taken.)

See how long you can go everyday without thinking about your problems – what you don’t have or what you wish were different.

Before you get out of bed in the morning see if you can feel happy and excited about your day.

I know this probably sounds too “easy” but I invite you to do it.

I don’t believe life was meant to be hard with a few good moments in between.

All my love,


P.S.  If you’re ready to get into the fast lane and start attracting what you want to you in an easy, fun, joyful and effortless way  – you’ll want to check out my Feminine Art Of Attraction Program! Click on the link to learn more.


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Hey, Leigha here – I’m a mom, wife, lover of the outdoors & Relationship Coach for High-Achieving Women. My mission is to help women steer clear of unhealthy, toxic, soul-destroying relationships and show them how to attract an integrated masculine man, and live a deeply rich and fulfilling life.

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