Hi, Leigha here…
There have been a lot of new changes in my world. We moved into a new place and we also welcomed the newest member of our family, a baby girl! It’s hard to believe I’m living the life I dreamed about as a young girl. I know if it can happen for me, it can happen for you too!
What To Do If Your Man Came On Super Strong In The Beginning And Now He’s Stopped Moving Your Relationship Forward – Whether You’ve Been Together 4 Months Or Years.
If you’re feeling anxious, frustrated and a little stuck because your once wonderful relationship seems to be slipping out of your hands – I can totally relate!
I remember feeling this way so clearly and my gut instinct was to take action to “fix” things. I was afraid if I didn’t “do” something and show him how much I cared, he was going to think I wasn’t interested and just drift further and further away.
When you learn exactly what to do (and stop doing) when your relationship seems to be going no where, or worse, slipping away from you – you’ll feel confident knowing how to get things back on track.
If you don’t learn exactly how to bring your man close again – you’ll find yourself in a vicious cycle of trying to “fix” things and maybe things will seem fine temporarily but then all of a sudden he’ll pull away again.
The Most Important Thing To Do Is To Stop Trying To “Fix” Your Relationship
I know how scary this feels! It goes against every fiber of our being – so how can something that feels so counter intuitive turn things around?
It has everything to do with our vibe. When we’re in “fix it” mode – the vibe we’re sending out has a desperate, needy and insecure feeling. All of a sudden he’s become the center of our world (and he can feel it energetically from miles and miles away) – and no one wants that kind of energy coming in their direction.
Step 1: Stop doing what doesn’t work
Notice if you’re doing things because you know that’s what he likes – even if it’s not convenient for you.
Notice if you’re afraid to “rock the boat” in any way.
Notice if you’re initiating affection, calling him to check in (because you haven’t heard from him in a few days), or wanting to talk about how he’s feeling and where he sees the relationship going.
What we stop doing is more important than what we start doing. Some of the things we do that feel like love to us – feel like pressure to a man.
Step 2: Learn how to respond to him when he comes close – when he calls, texts and initiates affection – so he’ll want to keep coming towards you.
This is the Bring Him Close Combo – creating space and softness at the same time.
How To Stop Fixing And Inspire Him To Take Action – Right Now
The Fire Hose Tool
Right Now – Imagine you and your man have a house together. This house represents your relationship. Inside this house holds all of your memories together – It’s a very special place.
Now imagine coming home together and your house is on fire.
You start to feel sick to your stomach. You start panicking and wonder how could this be happening?!
Now – you notice a fire hose right beside you and you instinctively reach down to pick it up. You start running around frantically trying to put out the flames.
Imagine your man right in front of you watching you – what do you want to do?
Do you trust him to pick up the hose if you drop it?
Are you afraid he won’t do the job right?
Are you afraid he won’t be quick enough?
On the count of 3 – drop the hose! 1 – 2 – 3 DROP.
How does that feel? Scary?
What’s he doing?
The only way you’ll ever know if he’s the man for you is if you drop the fire hose.
IF he is – he will instinctively and automatically pick up that fire hose and begin putting out the flames. (This looks like him calling you, making plans consistently and talking about a future together with the kind of commitment you want.)
When he sees and feels your trust in him – he’ll feel inspired to keep going – no matter how tired he feels because he wants to be your hero!
As you’re watching him put out the flames – imagine yourself sitting down in a lawn chair appreciating his hard work and cheering him on.
How does that feel?
This is only one quick, easy Tool to help you get your relationship back on the fast track.
I would love to hear how this goes for you!
As always – please keep me posted! I love receiving your updates!!
P.S. Dropping the fire hose isn’t about getting him to pick it up. It’s about trusting that the right man for you will. Can you feel the difference? This subtle but very important shift in your vibe can turn your relationship around on a dime.