Here’s an amazing guest post from Expert Life and Relationship Coach, Helena Hart.
If you want to attract an amazing high-quality man, or deepen the attraction and intimacy with the man you’re with now, uncovering your unique gifts and USING them in service to your life’s purpose is one of the BEST things you can do to transform your love life forever.
This is easily the #1 thing I did to shift my vibe, attract my wonderful husband, and allow my love life to become everything I ever dreamed of – so I have a LOT to say about this!
If you’re not using your unique gifts out there in the world, you can go into what I call a “penalty phase” which is quite uncomfortable. There’s a lot of restriction and frustration in that phase.
If you have a certain gift but you don’t use it, you can go through what feels like “chasing your tail.” You’ll feel like you can’t get out of your own way, or can’t seem to “get started.”
This was the story of my life before I discovered my OWN gifts and life’s purpose, and it affected my love life tremendously.
When you’re not embracing your gifts, you’ll often feel lost or inadequate or “left in the dust.” You may even start to reduce the expression of your gifts and get “smaller” within yourself, which leads to an inaccurate self-image and becomes a massive Intimacy Barrier.
We can tend to think that if we deny or make “small” a part of ourselves or don’t acknowledge it, then somehow we’re going to get the love, acceptance, or approval that we want – this is often operating at a deep, unconscious level.
The truth is, when we embrace ALL of who we are – including the gifts that we may be afraid of – that’s when we start to attract everything we want in life AND in love!
This is why uncovering your gifts and committing to your life’s purpose has EVERYTHING to do with your love life. If you’re not using your unique gifts out there in the world, chances are you’ve rarely been “mirrored” in your life.
We can’t be seen and recognized by others for things that we’re not able to recognize in ourselves. If you’re oblivious to your gifts or you’re not using them in service to your life’s purpose, people aren’t going to “mirror” them back to you.
What happens when people aren’t being “mirrored” is they often forget that they even HAVE their gifts, and they’ll attract people who don’t really “see” them or who aren’t willing or able to give them what they want in a relationship.
If you’re in a relationship and you’re not embracing and using your gifts, your partner won’t be able to see your gifts either, and you can begin to feel neglected, unappreciated, or misunderstood – and it can start to devolve into one of those lower levels of relationship.
You can also keep yourself very busy in non-intimacy relationship entanglements as a big distraction from your gifts and your OWN life’s purpose. I did this for so much of my life that I know this to be a FACT.
The first step to discovering if you have an intimacy barrier due to not embracing your gifts is looking at your external life. That will often tell you everything you need to know about your INTERNAL life.
Your external life is a reflection of what’s going on within you and how you feel about YOURSELF on the inside. This includes state of your health, the people you choose to spend time with, the way that you spend your time in terms of work and how much joy this brings to your life.
Take a look at your life around you, look at what’s being reflected back TO you. All of what’s going on around you on the outside is a mirror for you.
If things aren’t going well in your life or something feels “off”, it often appears that it’s everything outside of you that’s causing all of these problems – but what’s going on outside of you is being drawn TO you because of something inside of you.
Since everything is a vibrational “match”, what you need to do is uncover or reclaim your unique gifts and begin USING them – this will create a PROFOUND shift in your sense of self-esteem and self-love, and attract the right person and opportunities to you like a magnet!
When you start to see the true depth, power, and beauty of who you are, THAT’S what’s going to be “mirrored” back to you from the outer world!
That’s why if you really want to develop true intimacy with yourself and a fantastic man at a level you’ve never experienced, you can’t hide from your gifts.
When you uncover or reclaim that part of yourself and begin taking steps toward the life of your dreams, that’s when you’ll find that perfect “match” for you (or completely transform the relationship you’re in). This is exactly how it happened for me, and for so many of my clients.
Expert Life & Relationship Coach Leigha Lake and I are going to be teaching a Master Class called the The Feminine Art Of Attraction. This 7-step program will help you gain clarity on your specific gifts and life’s purpose and the EXACT steps to start living the life AND love you were meant to live.