Here’s a letter from Debbie…
“Hi Leigha, I’ve met a younger man, he’s 24, and I’ve been having the time of my life with him. After 3 months of dating he asked for exclusivity. I said,”No.” He’s too young, this is fun for now but not serious…it could never work. After a few months of keeping it casual, I’m starting to feel attached and he’s telling me he no longer has any desire to be exclusive and it’s making me feel horrible…He told me he feels fine seeing me for the next ten years casually and being in my life without any commitment. I told him I felt sad and confused and he said he felt the same way?? He tells me he loves me, yet he’s ok for this to end when we both find someone else.I think he is really having his cake and eating it too. I feel sick to my stomach. I don’t know what to do and to be honest I don’t have time for this. Did I make a mistake by not becoming exclusive right away? Did it push him away? Thanks, Debbie”
Hi Debbie – Please don’t beat yourself up and think that if you had agreed to being exclusive early on things would be different now. And because you don’t necessarily see a future with him, and things are starting to feel bad…
Why are you still there? Why are you staying in a relationship that feels bad?
If you’re not feeling loved, adored, cherished, and the center of his universe, is he really the man for you?
And – no amount of feminine energy, scripts, or leaning back (like we talked about) will change anything, IF you’re still operating from masculine energy on the inside and wanting to make something happen.
Ultimately, this isn’t even about him. This is about you and how you feel AND having the amazing, loving, tender relationship you want.
Before I met my husband, I had written down exactly how I wanted to feel in my dream relationship. I feel all of those wonderful feelings and more, daily.
I would love to hear how you want to feel in your dream relationship!